Sex, Men and God

Here's a list of emotions.

• Abandoned
• Abused
• Aching
• Accepted
• Accused
• Accepting
• Admired
• Adored
• Adventurous
• Affectionate
• Agony
• Alienated
• Aloof
• Aggravated
• Agreeable
• Aggressive
• Alive
• Alone
• Alluring
• Amazed
• Amused
• Angry
• Anguished
• Annoyed
• Anxious
• Apart
• Apathetic
• Apologetic
• Appreciated
• Appreciative
• Apprehensive
• Appropriate
• Approved
• Argumentative
• Aroused
• Astonished
• Assertive
• Attached
• Attacked
• Attentive
• Attractive
• Aware
• Awestruck
• Badgered
• Baited
• Bashful
• Battered
• Beaten
• Beautiful
• Belligerent
• Belittled
• Bereaved
• Betrayed
• Bewildered
• Blamed
• Blaming
• Bonded
• Bored
• Bothered
• Brave
• Breathless
• Bristling
• Broken-up
• Bruised
• Bubbly
• Burdened
• Burned
• Callous
• Calm
• Capable
• Captivated
• Carefree
• Careful
• Careless
• Caring
• Cautious
• Certain
• Chased
• Cheated
• Cheerful
• Childlike
• Choked-up
• Close
• Cold
• Comfortable
• Comforted
• Competent
• Competitive
• Complacent
• Complete
• Confident
• Confused
• Considerate
• Consumed
• Content
• Cool
• Courageous
• Courteous
• Coy
• Crabby
• Cranky
• Crazy
• Creative
• Critical
• Criticized
• Cross
• Crushed
• Cuddly
• Curious
• Cut
• Damned
• Dangerous
• Daring
• Dead
• Deceived
• Deceptive
• Defensive
• Delicate
• Delighted
• Demeaned
• Demoralized
• Dependant
• Depressed
• Deprived
• Deserted
• Desirable
• Desired
• Despondent
• Destroyed
• Different
• Dirty
• Disenchanted
• Disgusted
• Disinterested
• Dispirited
• Distressed
• Distrustful
• Distrusted
• Disturbed
• Dominated
• Domineering
• Doomed
• Doubtful
• Dreadful
• Eager
• Ecstatic
• Edgy
• Edified
• Elated
• Embarrassed
• Empowered
• Empty
• Enraged
• Enraptured
• Enthusiastic
• Enticed
• Esteemed
• Exasperated
• Exposed
• Fake
• Fascinated
• Feisty
• Ferocious
• Foolish
• Forced
• Forceful
• Forgiven
• Forgotten
• Free
• Friendly
• Frightened
• Frustrated
• Full
• Funny
• Furious
• Gay
• Generous
• Gentle
• Genuine
• Giddy
• Giving
• Goofy
• Grateful
• Greedy
• Grief
• Grim
• Grimy
• Grouchy
• Grumpy
• Hard
• Harried
• Hassled
• Healthy
• Helpful
• Helpless
• Hesitant
• High
• Hollow
• Honest
• Hopeful
• Hopeless
• Horrified
• Hostile
• Humiliated
• Hurried
• Hurt
• Hyper
• Ignorant
• Ignored
• Immature
• Impatient
• Impotent
• Impressed
• Incomplete
• Independent
• Insecure
• Innocent
• Insignificant
• Insincere
• Inspired
• Insulted
• Interested
• Intimate
• Intolerant
• Involved
• Irate
• Irrational
• Irked
• Irresponsible
• Irritable
• Irritated
• Isolated
• Jealous
• Jittery
• Joyous
• Lively
• Lonely
• Loose
• Lost
• Loving
• Low
• Lucky
• Lustful
• Mad
• Maudlin
• Malicious
• Mean
• Miserable
• Misunderstood
• Moody
• Morose
• Mournful
• Mystified
• Nasty
• Nervous
• Nice
• Numb
• Nurtured
• Nuts
• Obsessed
• Offended
• Open
• Ornery
• Out of Control
• Overcome
• Overjoyed
• Overpowered
• Overwhelmed
• Pampered
• Panicked
• Paralyzed
• Paranoid
• Patient
• Peaceful
• Pensive
• Perceptive
• Perturbed
• Phony
• Pleasant
• Pleased
• Positive
• Powerless
• Present
• Precious
• Pressured
• Pretty
• Proud
• Pulled Apart
• Put Down
• Puzzled
• Quarrelsome
• Queer
• Quiet
• Raped
• Ravished
• Ravishing
• Real
• Refreshed
• Regretful
• Rejected
• Rejecting
• Rejuvenated
• Relaxed
• Relieved
• Remarkable
• Remembered
• Removed
• Repulsed
• Repulsive
• Resentful
• Resistant
• Responsible
• Responsive
• Repressed
• Respected
• Restless
• Revolved
• Riled
• Rotten
• Ruined
• Sad
• Safe
• Satiated
• Satisfied
• Scared
• Scolded
• Scorned
• Scrutinized
• Secure
• Seduced
• Seductive
• Self-Centered
• Self-Conscious
• Self-Righteous
• Separated
• Sensuous
• Sexy
• Shattered
• Shocked
• Shot Down
• Shy
• Sickened
• Silly
• Sincere
• Sinking
• Smart
• Smothered
• Smug
• Sneaky
• Snowed
• Soft
• Solid
• Solitary
• Sorry
• Spacey
• Special
• Spiteful
• Spontaneous
• Squelched
• Starved
• Stiff
• Stimulated
• Stifled
• Strangled
• Strong
• Stubborn
• Stuck
• Stunned
• Stupid
• Subdued
• Successful
• Suffocated
• Sure
• Sweet
• Sympathy
• Tainted
• Tearful
• Tender
• Tense
• Terrific
• Terrified
• Thrilled
• Ticked
• Tickled
• Tight
• Timid
• Tired
• Tolerant
• Tormented
• Torn
• Tortured
• Touched
• Trapped
• Tremendous
• Tricked
• Trusted
• Trustful
• Trusting
• Ugly
• Unacceptable
• Unapproachable
• Unaware
• Uncertain
• Uncomfortable
• Under Control
• Understanding
• Understood
• Undesirable
• Unfriendly
• Ungrateful
• Unified
• Unhappy
• Unimpressed
• Unsafe
• Unstable
• Upset
• Uptight
• Used
• Useful
• Useless
• Unworthy
• Validated
• Valuable
• Valued
• Victorious
• Vindicated
• Violated
• Violent
• Voluptuous
• Vulnerable
• Warm
• Wary
• Weak
• Whipped
• Whole
• Wicked
• Wild
• Willing
• Wiped Out
• Wishful
• Withdrawn
• Wonderful
• Worried
• Worthy
• Zealous

The Feeling Exercise:

• I feel ______ (word from list above) when ______.
• I first remember feeling _______ when _______.

Rules:

• Do not use the same feeling word day after day. Doing this will lessen the effectiveness of the exercise to develop intimacy.
• Do not use one childhood memory for twenty different feeling words. Though several feeling words could describe one situation, it will be more effective to share as many differentsituations as possible with your spouse in the interest of developing emotional intimacy.

Guidelines:

• NO EXAMPLES ABOUT EACH OTHER. That means nothing positive or negative in this exercise. It helps create a nonthreatening place for both of you.
• MAINTAIN EYE CONTACT.
• NO FEEDBACK FOR 72 HOURS. This guideline is critical to keep the exercise safe for both spouses.